Ever since I was a little girl, I have been writing my love stories. If I am honest I would say TV shows, novels, social media have heavily influenced the way I perceive dating and how I navigate dating.
Growing up, I have loved reading books except maybe for textbooks. It is funny now as a woman in her early 30s I am in love with the best textbook, life manual, self-help book … the bible.
I thought it would be refreshing to examine the love stories in the Bible.
Chapter 24 of Genesis records the spouse-seeking process for Isaac. Abraham commissioned his servant to find a wife for his son Isaac. His requested that the servant would not bring a Canaanite woman, knowing that Canaanites are wicked.
The servant asked, “But what if I can’t find a young woman who is willing to travel so far from home? Should I then take your relatives in the land you came from?”
It reminds me of the questions I and likely many other Christian singles have been asked. “What if you can’t find a Christian man? What if you miss the opportunity to date/meet someone as you invest so much time into serving in ministries? What if you end up dying single? What if…?” Sometimes we may be the ones asking ourselves the “what if” questions.
How are you handling these “what if” questions?
I used to be stirred emotionally and my faith shaken a bit. These internal emotions/responses often led me to go for dates that were not my first choice. These “what ifs” triggered my “Should I date someone even if there is something noticeably wrong just so I have someone?”, “should I maybe date a non-believer but has a lot of potential to fall in love with Jesus?”
I rushed to go on dates and half-listened to God while making these decisions. The 27-year old me was sitting in my date’s car which then got in to a car accident. A few years after that, a “potential” engaged in an ongoing conversation with me. The conversation only lasted for one week and he turned out to be a scammer on a Christian online dating App. Both of these situations were fully preventable, if I did not let the pressure of these “what if” questions get to me.
Abraham’s response to the servant’s question was full of faith. I see that he planned according to God’s promise “be careful never to take my son there. For the Lord, the God of heaven, who took me from my father’s house and my native land, solemnly promised to give this land to my descendants. He will send his angel ahead of you, and he will see to it that you find a wife there for my son. If she is unwilling to come back with you, then you are free from this oath of mine. But under no circumstances are you to take my son there. (Genesis 24:7-8)”
Spoiler alert. The servant ended up finding a wife for Isaac.
One thing I learned is to answer those “what ifs” or doubts with God’s promise.
What is your response to those “what ifs” directed to you? I will go first, “even if I end up being single”, I know:
God alone is my refuge, my place of safety; He is my God, and I trust Him. For He will rescue me from every trap and protect me from deadly disease. He will cover me with His feathers. He will shelter me with His wings. His faithful promises are my armor and protection. (Psalm 91:2-4)
God’s promise revives me; it comforts me in all my troubles (Psalm 119: 50).
And so many more….
Let us recount God’s promises together.
What promises of God’s do you hold on to?